Three days ago I’ve received a letter from Tina, http://imtina.wordpress.com blogger. She has adopted a baby from Tokmok city, near to Bishkek. She was interested in learning traditions, particularly, why mothers give up their babies. She wrote to me:

I am trying to understand the Kyrgyz culture and perhaps understand why my baby’s mother gave her up. Culturally speaking, is it unacceptable to be an unwed mother? Are young women who get pregnant out of wedlock pressured to give up their babies? I’d love your insights, whatever they may be. Part of what we were told was that my baby’s mother in Kyrgyzstan left a false address. Does that mean she most likely never wants to be found?

She updates her blog regularly, as I’ve seen, and already added to her blogroll other weblogs. I thought it would be interesting and useful for her if you could leave a comment about her letter at her blog.

I have already answered her e-mail, and wrote something like this. Are you agreed with my opinion?

Actually it is the thing which i really hate. I hate the tradition, which is against the individual liberty of each people. A girl who is pregnant and still not married can have her baby. But, actually, if she is from village or small town, it is something like a shame for her parents. And especially, if parents do know who is father, then they talk to him, and let their girl get merried. If not, sometimes they can say “get an abortion”, or “Give up your baby”.

The another thing which is also necessery to know is - social-economic status of that girl. If she is not poor, and her parents are agreed to have grandson, then she can have her baby. If not, they have to give up their babies as they cannot take care of them…

What do you think about?